Time is never ripe for a suicide

Do you think you have lost the will to live? Well you are not alone. When people are bogged down by problems in life they think of the other alternative “DEATH” Most of them struggle through their problems and succeed in finding a solution while some others don’t. There lies the marked difference.


IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM AND ARE THINKING SUICIDE!!
HOLD IT! THERE IS A SOLUTION.

Around 2000 people in Bangalore commit suicide every year and about 95% of these are teenagers. It is a pity that we are often left alone during the most confused phase of our lives and I cant help thinking that if there were someone to help, so many of these lives could be saved.

I have been researching why teenagers take this extreme step and here are a few factors and perhaps a way out.

1) Loneliness:
We seldom find people who are like us, and if we do we are extremely lucky. So there is nothing wrong in being lonely. Keep an open mind and be yourself, you are bound to find someone soon. In the meanwhile read some books, identify your talents and develop them. Keep yourself busy.

2) Feeling Unwanted:
I have come across a lot of teenagers who complain that they are not wanted by anybody and nobody would miss them if they die. So what? Have an aim in life; show them your worth.

3) Facing Humiliation:
Of the things that bother the adolescents, humiliation is one of the worst. Be it ragging or being teased in school, it is indeed difficult to face. However there is one mantra” Believe in yourself, because if you don’t nobody else will”.

4) Combat Fear:
Do you freak out during exams?
Be superstitious. Identify a lucky dress and tell yourself that while I am wearing it nothing can go wrong.
Go offer flowers to your favorite god and tell yourself it is your lucky day.
Listen to a good song on radio and think that this song will really make my day.
These are just “bahanas”. After sometime you won’t need any of these excuses to have a lucky day.
Don’t believe me? Try it.

5) Love Failure:
Believe it or not this is one of the main reasons why people loose their lives. There are two main reasons for a relationship to fail.
Possessiveness and Ego. If you have lost your love think back and see if you have made these mistakes. Some people say that possessiveness is a sign of love, but that’s not true. After sometime it becomes a pain for the other person. Ego spoils all kinds of relationships. Love means surrender and there is no place for ego there. Keep these in check
Ego is not your problem? Your love doesn’t reciprocate?
Big Deal! The opposite party looses. As for you? You have got most the amazing experience of your life. Move on.

6) Don’t let those negative thoughts get on to you:
Attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference.
Don’t let your worries burn you. Keep things light, laugh a lot and keep telling yourself everything happens for my own good.
That’s a small tonic for confidence.

7) Physical or sexual abuse:
It is a bad, sad world. I don’t know what to say except whatever the reason it’s not worth your life.

Here are some pointers I could think of. Every body has teenage troubles. None are spared. I guess that is the reason I am tagging Sudhir, Sourav, Daisy, Aditi, Nasia and anybody who thinks they have experiences worth sharing.
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Who knows? Somebody, someday, somewhere may read these articles and conclude that “time is never ripe for suicide”.

ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಮುಂಜಾನೆ ಬೆಳಕಲ್ಲಿ
ಹಸುರಿನ ನಡುವಲ್ಲಿ
ಚಾಚಿದ ಎಲೆಯಾಗಿ
ಇಬ್ಬನಿ ಹಿಡಿಯಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಸೂರ್ಯನ ಕಿರಣಗಳು,
ಸೋಂಕಿದ ಕಡೆಯೆಲ್ಲ
ವಜ್ರದ ಹೊಳಪಾಗೊ
ನೀರಾಗಿ ಹರಿಯಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಅರ್ಕನ ಸುಂದರ
ಮೊಗವನ್ನು ಕಂಡೊಡೆ
ಮೆರಗಿಂದ ಹಾಡುವ
ಹಕ್ಕಿಯ ಧನಿಯಾಗಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ನೇಸರನು ನಲಿವಿಂದ
ಭುವಿಯನ್ನು ಬೆಳಗಿರಲು
ಮೆಲ್ಲನೆ ಅರಳುವ
ಹೂವಿನ ನಗೆಯಾಗಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಚಿನ್ನದ ಬೆಳಕು
ಬಣ್ಣವ ತುಂಬಿರಲು
ಹರುಷದಿಂದಾಡುವ
ಚಿಟ್ಟೆಯಂತಾಗಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಪ್ರತಿ ಮನೆಯ ಮುಂಗಡೆ
ಬೆಳಗಿನ ಸಂಭ್ರಮದ
ಶುಭಸೂಚಿಯಂತಿರುವ
ರಂಗವಲ್ಲಿಯಾಗಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಬೆಳಕು ಹರಿದಿರುವಾಗ,
ಆನಂದ ತುಂಬಿರಲು
ಪ್ರಕ್ರುತಿಯೊಡಗೂಡಿ
ನೇಸರನ ಸ್ವಾಗತಿಸಲು ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆನ್ನ!

ಚಂದ್ರ ಬಿಂಬ

ಚಂದಿರ ನಿನ್ನ,

ಬೆಳದಿಂಗಳ ಕಿರಣ ನಾನಾದರೆ,

ಆ ಸುಂದರ ಮೊಗವನ್ನು ಬೆಳಗುವ,

ಬೆಳ್ಳಿ ಬೆಳಕು ನಾನಾದರೆ.

ಮುಗ್ದ ಮಗುವಿನ ನಯನ ಸಿರಿಯಲಿ,

ಬಿಂಬವಾಗಿ ಸೆರೆಯಗುವೆ.

ರಂಗುಗೊಂಡಿಹ ರಮ್ಯ ಕಣ್ಣುಗಳು,

ಸೂಸುವ ಪ್ರತಿಬಿಂಬ ನಾನಾಗುವೆ.

ಹರಿವ ನೀರಿನ ಬಳುಕು ನಡಿಗೆಗೆ,

ಮೆರಗಿನಂದವ ನಾ ನೀಡುವೆ.

ಇಂಪು ನಾದಕೆ ಸದ್ದು ಮಾಡದೆ,

ಹೆಜ್ಜೆ ನಾನು ಹಾಕುವೆ.

ಮುಗಿಲ ದೀಪವೆ, ಜಗವ ಬೆಳಗುವೆ,

ನಿನ್ನ ಕಿರಣ ನಾನದರೆ,

ಮನೆಯ ಬೆಳಗುವ ಹಣತೆ ಬೆಳಕಲಿ,

ನಾನು ಒಂದಾಗುವೆ.

English Translation:

This poem talks about the things that I would like to do if I ever become a moonbeam, the silver rays of light that lit up the moon’s face.

Children are always fascinated by moon. When they look at him there is unfathomable happiness in their eyes. I want to be imprisoned in the eyes of an innocent child as a ray of light. I will come out of those bright beautiful eyes as a beam of reflected happiness.

A river looks beautiful at night. Moon light adds sparkle to the flowing water. I will be the cause of this sparkle. I will walk amidst the dancing waves noiselessly rejoicing the melodious music emanating out of these waves.

Moon gives light to the whole world. A lamp gives light to a single house. I want to be united with the light of a lamp if I become a moon beam. Give light atleast to one house.

This is more of a summary than a poem. Such poems are impactfull only if written in kannada and I don’t think my English translation does any justice to the original poem. So my dearest English readers, please forgive me.

The art of decision making

The pleasant evening air stretched itself luxuriously on the soporific streets of Bangalore. The evening sky, completely covered by the pearly white clouds mingled with the lugubrious aura of air had made me doggedly lethargic. I parked my vehicle in the portico and was getting my office bag out when a soft voice mumbled something indistinct. I looked around to see a little girl, no more than eight years old, saddling her three younger brothers along with her. She was small and skinny, short for her age. Filthy uncombed hair and dirty unwashed face marked her appearance, her bright little eyes being the only exception. “Will you give me some work”? She repeated. I was startled out of my reverie, thoroughly irritated that she had unknowingly pronounced my shameful languor. “What do you want”? I asked her shortly.

I did not feel any pity for her; I had seen too many people jostling around Bangalore, cornering people struck in traffic jams. Many of them carried half fed crying babies seldom their own. I had also seen them sporting a broken hand or limping convincingly on their unharmed legs. Many even included their children to gain compassion. Begging has evolved into a disgusting profession of sorts.

But she looked at me with her demure little eyes and said almost inaudibly “food”. If I was startled then it was nothing compared to now. This girl was not begging, she wanted to earn her food, to feed her hungry little brothers. Encouraged by her attitude and determined not to discourage her I gave her a broom and asked her to sweep the portico.
She did so cheerfully and informed me that she went to a government school in the morning. She swept every corner of the portico neatly and stood looking at me happily and expectantly.

As I looked back at her smiling I couldn’t help but appreciate the decision making skill in her at such a small age. She had taken the decision not to beg but earn her living. I could almost see the art of decision making blooming, influenced by the environment and culture in which one grows up, enduring the fierce battle between the emotions of heart and rationale of mind culminating in the choices one makes. The way the decisions we take outlines our character, nurtures our attitude and embellishes our spirit earning the appropriate adjective “Art”.

I gave her some food which she took thankfully. I watched her go, her three brothers jumping around her, a definite good impression formed in my mind. A thought occurred to me awakening my weather dimmed wits. There will be people creating such impressions about me all day long. I, being much older than her and having a responsible job in hand a lot more will be expected of me. Will I be able to replicate the simple decision taken by the girl in the complex scenarios of my life? Will my choices be right and erudite? I wondered.

The cool evening breeze hit my puzzled face; I laughed and turned towards my home leaving the unanswered question to time. The dull evening had been worthwhile after all. My sophomoric mind comprehended something that I knew all along “Good decision making is a sign of sound leadership”.

ಮೌನವಾಗಿಯೇ....

My first kannada blog....hope you enjoy it...

-------brinzy

English translation:

I stood waiting silently,
For your eyes to give the indication
For that life giving sweet smile
That symbolizes that indication,

Words of my heart are hidden in my eyes,
You are the sparkle in them, you are the magic
When I look at you, there is a smile on my lips
How can you not notice this?

Your touch stimulates me,
Why do I feel happy, why do I suffer?
I am unable to speak when you are in front of me
How can you not hear my heart beats?

Let our eyes meet, and hearts unite
Let the pure love flow
Until this happens, for me
silence is the law, silence is the way.

What sets a winner apart?

Winners have the ability to step back from the canvas of their lives like an artist gaining perspective. They make their life a work of art - an individual masterpiece.
With what other better quote could have I started my article?
I have always tried to fathom the mystery behind these charismatic personalities called Winners They seldom fail to capture your attention,
They seem to be good in everything that they do
I have always wondered about the secret of their splendid persona.
And I would like to present my ponderings to you
Any book, any website or any person I asked gave me the same answer.
Be Positive.
But what is being positive? What is it that I should be thinking in order to be positive?
Let me tell you what I think.
All of us dream don’t we? Winners start their journey in the same way, with a dream.
I had written a poem when I was young which said that our dreams are nothing but our alter egos that take the form of a bird and move towards their destination. From there they attract us until the entire idea manifests itself completely in our mind. Then we start our actual journey towards our goal and that’s when we meet with impediments. This is exactly where the positive thinking comes into picture.
There is a story of a donkey which fell into the well accidentally. The owner who owned the donkey didn’t know what to do. He finally decided that the donkey was too old and the well was too dangerous and needs to be closed. So he started closing the well. The Donkey understood what was happening and started crying horribly. Then he stopped crying and did a surprising thing. With every shovel of dirt that was thrown down at him he simply shook it off and took a step up. He continued the process until he was completely out of the well and totted off.
I am sure most of us have come across this story but a few would have realized that this story teaches us the most important lesson on positive thinking.
When life pushes us down into a well the first and foremost thing to do is to stop whining. Because only when we suppress all our negative thoughts can we divert our thoughts towards productive thinking.
Secondly be brave and bold and shake off all the dirt that is thrown upon you and take a step up. With every step we take we will become intellectually stronger.
Thirdly we should not loose our heart midway. We should continue the whole process until we reach our goal.
The third most important thing for a winner is Confidence. Are you familiar with thoughts like what if my manager is not happy with me, what if my manager upbraids me for my work, what if I forget my speech when I come on stage, what if I make a fool of myself in front of everybody. If you are then you lack confidence.
I am simply in love with this Quote which says that “Confidence is not an emotion by itself; it simply means lack of fear” because it is so completely true.
All of us have grown up listening to the story of a giant invading a village, all the villagers shy away from the giant thinking that they cannot defeat him. In the end there is always a nobody who comes and conquers the giant. Have u realized that all these stories have been teaching the lesson of confidence all along?
The nervous thoughts are the villagers who shy away from the giant. The spirit that pops within us and encourages us is the nobody. It is only then that the “Giant”ish problem seems conquerable.
The fourth most thing for a winner is to learn to laugh at himself. By doing so we will be making the herculean task of forgiving ourselves easy. Nobody is perfect, everybody makes mistakes. I am sure most of us have faced a situation where we would have found it difficult to forgive ourselves. Forget and forgive because it’s only after you forgive yourself you move on to the next step of competing with yourself.
The last and the most important point is to Smile. By smiling we will be telling the world that we are positive and confident individuals ready to take on the world.
Believe me none of the ifs, buts, what ifs, fears, insecurities are true.
There is only one thing that is completely true. “U can achieve whatever you think you can”
If you believe only then will you dream and only then will you dare and only then can the entire Universe Conspire to help you. Courtesy Bible of Dreamers, The Alchemist.
So my friends I conclude telling “Do not give up on your dreams”

Sound of the Caterpillar

Fluttering wings of black and gold,
He flew around soft, serene.
The Valley green seemed jocund,
As he hovered around the vernal flowers
It washen she spotted his peripatetic grace,
most handsome butterfly, silent, blithe.

She had known the valley since her birth,
but she did not know its splendor.
Sun and moon and stars and earth,
filled her heart with wonder.
The cupid struck and found his mark,
She fell in love, deep, devout.

He was a boundless butterfly.
She was a caterpillar, ugly shy.
There was no hope, no leeway,
Lost to world, doused in misery,
She wove herself a cocoon,
There she lay broken, morose, lone

Yet she made a promise deep down,
that death she didn’t deserve.
There was no comfort, no content but pain,
but still, she will keep the Verve.
to leave behind the melancholy,
Live a life full of life, feisty, jolly.

She broke out but did not know herself,
Instead of caterpillar, there was a butterfly.
Many a times in life, we spin a web ourselves,
Not knowing what to do, we often brood and cry
Rise above your sadness, get up and get going
You have the spirit within you, charming, appealing.